Programming Altera Max EPM3256AQC208-10N PQFP-208

Not sure what you are referring to with this: "The friend above says that it can be read with the program. "

That being said, I have QuartusII 13.0sp1 on my system and an EPM3064A development board attached thru a USB Blaster and I know for a fact that QuartusII 13.0sp1 Programmer cannot read/examine the program in the device. The software does not support it.

An Arduino with software that bit bangs the JTAG pins could conceivably communicate with the device and read the program IF YOU KNEW THE JTAG PROTOCOL to do it. That is a big if. The programming protocols are not public information and were only available under NDA to third party programming tools company.

I think your only option at this point is to investigate the Xeltek IS01 that I mentioned above. It MIGHT be capable of reading back the program, I don't know. I don't have one of those devices. You will have to contact them to see if it can. It is an expensive option tho. Those programmers are not cheap (US$1000 class). If you could find someone that has one that would certainly help.