No, the address bus width may be different depending on the memory capacity and options chosen for the controller as mentioned. I pointed you to one example of what the address bus might look like (pages 323-324).
Avalon is a known standard with Altera IP so I guess the user guide is assuming you know what it is. Surprisingly, you're right, there is no link to the spec in the EMIF IP user guide.
The best way to understand how to issue commands to the controller IP is to generate the EMIF example design. You can take the example design and use it as a starting point for your own and then just replace the traffic generator with your own design once you see how it works issuing requests to the IP.